8 Things You Can Do to Change Your Life in 2022:

So far these are the things I’ve been doing to change:

None of this was easy, especially when you have set habits that are difficult to break. It was a choice I had to make on my own to better myself, my children, my family, and maybe for someone desiring for change. If I can do it, so can you!

1.) Grab a Hold of Yourself: Very, Very Important

• I became aware of my thoughts and feelings
• I had to Grab a hold of myself. I had to come to a realization of my thoughts and let go of things that were holding me back. Things like my past, memories, habits, and so forth. Even things like holding onto regrets, hurt, pain, and etc.
• I needed to become better mentally and emotionally.
• I had to build my mind to become the being created to be.
• I had to find solutions and search for answers as to why I was feeling the way I was.
• Heal to become my highest and true self.

2.) Forgiveness

• Forgiving myself, others, and asking for forgiveness of others as well was key. I was holding onto so many things.
• Forgiveness allows you the ability to forgive, let go of past pain, find healing, and not allow it to further disrupt.
• I began asking for forgiveness and I began forgiving myself and others too. It became easier during the process. This allows you to separate yourself to respect yourself, and realize yourself worth.
• In the past, I did so many things to hurt myself to feel validated by the thought of others. I lowered myself in many ways just to fit in, to feel accepted, I somewhat lived by the standards and expectations of others, the society, etc. only to end up in a nightmare.
• A clear mind, clear will, clear intention, clear desire, clear thought can liberate the mind to live, let go, and just be.

3.) Care More for Self

• To care for yourself to me includes, practicing to ignore thoughts or reflection of anything that doesn’t serve me well.
• Blocking out what others may say to effect, hurt, or cause pain. This maybe difficult. Especially if the individual is someone you know or care much for. You may have immediate contact, work relations, family, friend, etc.
• This also can include physical self care. Special physical treatments such as baths, facials, skincare. Maybe a treat out for bakery, treats, goods, however you feel, etc.
• Self-talk: I had a lot of self talk. Self talk is truly something found to be a real impact for loving yourself even more.

4.) Self Awareness

• I totally became self aware. I made it an intention to recognize where and what areas of my life I was failing. Getting myself more organized, regain practicality, etc. I became more productive for the desires of myself. That meant doing things pertaining to me, separating myself from people or things that couldn’t understand me, or value me as a person, or anything that hinder me from healing myself.
• I needed that to regain mental health and feel like a person all over again. This may seem strange to some or very clear and understanding to others. If ever to know, it was out of my control required by destiny and time please read on. Here’s a short story. There was a time during my early adulthood where everything was centered or focused primarily around my family, my children, my home, even others etc. I became lost within my own identity and forgot all about myself. I forgot all about the things I enjoyed doing. There was a time I didn’t care much for myself. I’d often abused or even mistreated myself.

5.) Planning and Organizing

• I got back into planning, preparing, and having structural lay outs in my days for me.
• Cleaning and decluttering areas all around your environment.
• I began planning to spend quality time with myself doing healthy activities or mindful practices.
• I would reach out to family or people not the greatest at staying in touch with. Making an attempt to be more interactive, respectful, considerate, or understanding, etc. I would do so in the manner of what others may need or how they were feeling. Like be helpful, take someone out, buy a cup of tea/coffee, lunch or dinner. If someone was sick make soup, bring something over to help, etc.

6.) Gratitude

• I began to practice being grateful for every and anything. It eventually became something I would do each day. Even if it were for something simple throughout my day. For example, giving thanks for a new day healthy. Or if I bought something throughout the day I’d say thank you for the resources to provide this purchase and the replenishment 10 folds to come and return back to me plentiful.
• I would find pleasure and be grateful if I came across a beautiful butterfly and thank the Creator for the earth, life, for the minor and major details within it.

7.) Affirmations

• It may seem cliché but saying affirmations, playing them, soaking myself into positive words or phrases is helpful. In the beginning, using affirmations didn’t come natural. I remember when I first heard them, it sound refreshing but it felt surreal. During my early stages, sometimes I’d forget to say or play them. I wasn’t consistent. During critical times of frustration, to implement totally went over my head. But I didn’t give up. I didn’t want to give up. I was desperate for change and if this was the gateway to it. I rather fall and get back up again to keep trying for change.
• Each day, I’d listen to motivational messages or as often as I needed to.
• Repeat affirmations. Eventually this started to empower me to say them.
• Next thing you know I was setting intentions that helped me to push further into making them apart of my routine.
• Nothing is over night.

8.) Health and Lifestyle

• Apart of my development was eating healthy, maintaining a balanced lifestyle. I took the time to submerge myself into foods that provided vitality. I took supplements for my vitamin that helped increased levels in areas I needed a boost.  
• Exercising and maintaining a healthy lifestyle has always been something I’ve adapted to after losing weight during my late teenage years. When motherhood was at peak, I realized how much I slowed down with my work outs. I wasn’t as much interested either as I used to. I’ve always wanted to live a wholesome life. Feeling as good on the inside to reflect my outside.
• Educating myself was something I enjoy doing as well. Not a systematic way of being educated, but studying. Like indulging myself into books or researching. Things that especially supported the interest or desires I have for my life.

These were just some of the foundations that really launched a different mindset for me on a personal level. Keeping a consistent momentum is key for all of this to work together. It will help overall much better.

Unfortunately, the results are not always immediately apparent. Especially in the initial phase, these all take time and maybe at different pace, depending on other techniques or processes, and thought. But your job, is not to give up.

Find whatever will work for you and take your time, enjoy the process in between.

You don’t have to try to do all of these at once. Maybe try adding one of these into your routine. If you believe one resonates with you the most, start there. I took my time to really get into the groove of these. Mainly b/c I wasn’t truly giving it my best at first.

It reminded me of when I lost weight. I took a while before I noticed any changes to me on a physical aspect. Then eventually, I shedded pounds on the scale and in the mirror. From there, it became my motivation. I just kept on going until I was able to pick up full speed. I was rolling and rocking before you know it. I had lost every pound I desired for and was in great shape.

My point is. This is the same deal. One step at a time, one day at a time. A little goes a long way.

All the best!

–Just Kadia

Disclaimer: The information given here are none other than my very own personal experiences and has improved my life in many ways. I believe in hope, faith, and miracles. If this resonates with you, may your heart be delighted. This is simply to help inspire or motivate you in anyway. No medical or professional advice is given. Otherwise, feel free to also seek for professional help.

Be that in Life, Light, and Love!